Dan Blanchard award-winning author, speaker and educator
There had been a terrible accident and the two teens found themselves standing above their incapacitated father who was pinned to the ground under their smashed up 3,000 pound sports utility vehicle. At that very moment in their lives these two teen boys did not have the luxury of negative thoughts.
If they wanted their father to live there was no time to think that they were just two small teens up against a mammoth 3,000 pound vehicle. They had no time to logically workout the math and calculate the odds of success of them lifting that car off of their quickly fading father. They didn’t have the luxury of negative thoughts so they just did what they were supposed to do. And that was to fight against all odds and remove any obstacles that stood in the way of their father staying alive. With inhuman strength they lifted the car, and their father lived. The surprise of this heroic and miraculous event only dawned on them later, after their father was out of harm’s way.
Now most of us will never be in a situation where we have to lift a car off of one of our parents. And most of us will just go day to day living the normal lives of being influenced and once in a while overwhelmed by doubt and negative thinking. We all live these kind of lives, not because we’re weak or undeserving, but because we’re normal human beings. And that’s the kind of life most human beings tend to live.
However, just because we’re normal human beings and there isn’t much of a chance of major car-crashing events in our lives, it doesn’t mean that there are no worthy events in our lives. Everyday we are faced with worthy small events that are barely noticed because they are just part of our normal, daily routine. And this pattern of behavior and not noticing some things is usually okay because that is part of being human and being a mere mortal. Our conscious mind tries to avoid overload so it doesn’t recognize everything that happens to us. The problem comes when this pattern is never interrupted and we end up living lives of what Henry David Thoreau would call lives of quiet desperation.
People! We need to break this pattern of quiet desperation with a big, hard, solid backbone, and a sound observant mind! Every now and then we have to break the monotony of the mediocrity of the daily routine and do something above average. I say, let’s do something really special that will help others and have lasting postive effects for generations to come! Let’s be a leader!
Be warned though… As soon as we try to do something special our adversaries will show up starting with our own mind, and negative thinking, as well as our own negative self-talk. Our inner-selves will make it very clear to us with its never-ending chatter of morale-busting comments like, “Who do you think you are to be doing something special?” or “You’re not good enough to do that. You’re just a ___________.” Sadly, I think we can all fill in this blank…
Well, here I am to remind you life can be different, and should be different. Let’s start with the strategey that you don’t have the luxury of negative thoughts. Think about this for a moment: If your parent was trapped beneath a burning car, you don’t have the luxury of negative thoughts. You have to do something about it! If your spouse is abusing your kids, you don’t have the luxury of negative thoughts. You have to do something about it! If you are diagnosed with a life-threatening illness, you don’t have the luxury of negative thoughts. You have to do something about it. And someday, if you find yourself living a life of quiet desperation, then you no longer have the luxury of negative thoughts… You know the rest…
So get up and get thinking positive. Tame those negative thoughts and do your best to banish them from your mind and self-talk forever!
If you do as I’m telling you, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the amount of goodness and strength you will now find in your life. And you never know… Maybe someday that surplus of goodness, positivity, and strength will help you do something as miraculous as lifting up a car!
Now please share with the rest of us how you plan to use the Secret of Not Having the Luxury of Negative Thoughts!
Parent, Educator, Author
Dan Blanchard the Award Winning Author and Speaker, two-time Junior Olympian Wrestler, and two-time Junior Olympian Wrestling Coach who grew up as a student-athlete. Dan admits that as a youth he was more of an athlete than a student. Since then, Dan has successfully completed twelve years of college and has earned seven degrees. He teaches Social Studies in Connecticut’s largest inner-city high school. In addition, Dan is a Teacher Consultant for the University of Connecticut’s Connecticut Writing Project. He was chosen by the American Federation of Teachers as their face and voice of educational reform.
Dan has authored the two dynamic teen leadership books, Feeling Lucky? and Feeling Good. His third book of the Granddaddy’s Secrets series, Feeling Strong! will be out next winter. As an educator, coach, author, and speaker Dan feels that it is his duty to positively influence our youth every chance that he gets! He lives with his wife, Jennifer, their five children, and family dog, Daisy.