Watch Your Mouth!

A Teen Leadership and Mentoring Blog


Dan Blanchard award-winning author, speaker and educator

Watch your Mouth! I’m sure that we’ve all heard that phrase at one time or another throughout our lives.

I know, you’re probably thinking, “Not me! I’m one of the good ones. I never have to watch my mouth. I’m not like some of those others… They are the ones that really need to watch their mouths!”

Well, I’m here to tell you that you’re wrong… You need to watch your mouth. And… He needs to watch his mouth. She needs to watch her mouth. And I need to watch my mouth. No exceptions. We all need to watch our mouths.

You see what comes out of our mouths dictates how we live our lives. Have you ever walked by someone and asked them how they’re doing; only to be greeted with a low murmur of some kind? What kind of day do you think they’re going to have? Probably not a good one, right?

Subsequently, I’m sure that we’ve all walked by someone and asked them how they’re doing, and they answered back, “Good” in a flat tone. Routinely answering back “good” in a flat life-sucking tone is one of the worse things you can do! It’s even worse than the previous scenario when the person answered in a low murmur, or even those who may answer with a growl.

“Why?” you ask surprised.

Answering back in a negative, grumpy mood, is usually painful enough to cause you to realize that something isn’t right, and at some point you’re going to need to make a change.

But answering back with just a plain old boring,  “good”  doesn’t cause any alarms to go off in your mind. Nothing clicks to tell you this is bad. Thus your behavior, actions, thoughts, and emotions have no urgency behind them to change. The status quo continues…

Consequently, if your thoughts and behaviors have no reason to change from a flat emotionless, “good” to a highly energized superstar response, then neither will you or your lifestyle have any reason to change!

Here is a thought. I challenge you to change your response to people who say hello to you for just one day. I want you to watch your mouth and refuse to answer anybody’s “Hello, how are you?’ with a flat emotionless “good”. You’re no longer Pavlov’s dog blindly following stimulus and response. Instead, when someone ask you how you are, I want you to consciously pause for a moment. Remember… no Pavlov dog here. Next, perk up, smile, and answer him or her with a high energy, high emotion response word like, FABULOUS , AMAZING, UNBELIEVABLE, or any other positive high emotion word you can think of.

Promise me and yourself that you’ll watch your mouth, and do what I asked you above for just one day. If you do, your life may forever be changed for the better. And I doubt you’ll ever go back to living like you did before.


Now finally, please share how you plan to use the success secret of Watch Your Mouth.


Thanks for your time,


Daniel Blanchard

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